Sunday, November 30, 2008

No Rest for the Weary. Ever.

There's something wrong with a life characterized by having changed sheets and made all the beds, done two loads of laundry, vacuumed, emptied the garbage, picked up toys, sorted children's hand-me-downs and packed them away in the appropriate places, and paid a stack of bills, all before 9 o'clock on a Sunday morning.

I would never in a million years trade being a parent for a childless life, but every now and then the memory of weekend mornings spent drinking coffee while sitting still makes me want to weep.

Also, the fear that I may never truly sleep ever again.

5 comments:

Elise said...

Holy Christ, woman. That's insane. But I have to say ... I dunno how much of that is being a parent and how much of that is just being a far, far, FAR better housekeeper than most people I know. I, for example, never get anything LIKE all of that done on an entire Sunday, much less before 9 in the morning! Of course, I also have a child who sleeps. So that might be the difference.

Shan said...

Sadly, that is a fairly typical weekend early-morning for me. I admit there was more housekeeping to do today than usual, as our holiday guest departed after a 4+-day stay, so there were sheets, towels, etc. to be laundered and beds to be stripped (proof I'm not THAT great a housekeeper: Julia's sheets had not been changed in 3 weeks). However, this is the thing: if you never get any sleep and are awake from five o'clock on anyway, why not get a head-start on the chores?

SIGH.

Shan said...

p.s. to Elise--Not to scare you or anything, but, although I definitely like a clean house, the transition from one child to two is what really put us over the edge as far as goodbye-to-any-significant-relaxation-time-for-the-next-decade goes. There's never enough time in a day to get everything done when there's more than one small body to care for. Also, this whole child-who-doesn't-like-to-sleep-at-night thing? SHEER TORTURE. Help!

Mom said...

I would say you should sit down and enjoy that coffee and the newspaper even if you choose to do it at 5 a.m. -- and then do the bed-making and bill-paying and clothes-washing as the day progresses... You'll have to admit to being something of a fanatic where housekeeping is concerned. I'll bet you had Mary's bed stripped before she had left the house!!

Shan said...

To Mom-- No, but Mary had herself. At 5 a.m. I am lying in bed hoping to fall back to sleep (but never successful). What I have learned as a mom to children still this young is that I can never count on having time to do anything later--I never know what the day is going to bring, and guaranteed the one day I save a task for naptime or some such, nap does not happen--so if there is a moment (or an hour) to get things done, even if it is vacuuming at 8 a.m. on a Sunday, I do it right then.

And of course I admit to having (and meeting) high standards for housekeeping; it's one of my work duties right now, and I'm a good worker (and proud of it).

I just wish I had extended family nearby to, say, have my girls over for breakfast one Saturday a month or something like that.